Protesting is as American as the Boston Tea Party. The First Amendment to our Constitution includes the rights to speak freely, to assemble, and to petition our government for redress of grievances. That sounds like a pretty good description of a protest march like the Women’s March in Knoxville which I attended today.
Dictionary.com defines patriotism as “devotedlove,support,anddefenseofone’scountry;nationalloyalty.” Today’s pre-march ceremony began with the Pledge of Allegiance. Many marchers carried American flags. (I heard one of them expressing concern about whether it was disrespectful that his flag was getting wet in the rain.)
Can I rage for a second here? Protesting is NOT whining, it’s NOT being a sore loser, and it’s certainly NOT unpatriotic. People gather in peaceful protest BECAUSE they love this country, because they believe in its ideals, and because they want it to be better. (Our new President has spent the past two years talking about how terrible this country is and how we need him to make it great again. Was that unpatriotic?)
On January 27, 2017, pro-life marchers will gather in Washington to voice their disagreement with this country’s abortion laws. These marchers want abortion legally banned. They disagree with Federal, State, and local laws allowing abortion and deplore Supreme Court decisions which have upheld those laws. They believe in the ideals of this great nation–the ones guaranteeing life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness–and that they should apply to everyone, born or unborn. They think the United States of America can and should be better.
I’ve participated in more local Marches for Life than I can recall. I’ve slogged through rain and biting cold on behalf of the unborn. (I’ve also marched against the death penalty, for what it’s worth.) So I think that gives me the moral authority to tell you that the only difference between marching today and marching next weekend is what participants are protesting.
Women (and lots of men!) marched today to protest potential policies of the incoming administration, based upon the political promises of the President. They marched for many reasons: for healthcare, for equal pay for equal work, for compassion toward immigrants and refugees. And they also marched against things: sexual assault, discrimination, prejudice, hatred.
“Give him a chance,” people say. “He hasn’t done anything yet.” All the more reason for us to stand up now, before he has a chance to implement any policies, to assemble and use our right to speak freely and let him know how his proposals will grieve us! Why wait to protest until after the fact?
On November 2, 2016 I joined Pantsuit Nation, an online community of Hillary supporters. The group, now almost four million strong, comprised people of many different backgrounds and beliefs, united by our support of Hillary and fear of a Trump presidency.
I posted an introduction after joining, which you can read here. And I was overwhelmed and overjoyed by the welcome I received. Over 3,600 people liked my post, and there were 412 comments. Many people asked for permission to share what I had said elsewhere. I was showered with love and affirmation, not only from fellow pro-life Catholics but from people of every imaginable ideological stripe, including many, many pro-choice women. After a year of feeling adrift and alone, it was a heady sensation.
Too bad it didn’t last.
It turned out that without Hillary to hold us together this great movement of women is breaking down along tired and predictable lines, and those of us who are both pro-life and progressive are left out in the cold once more. The New Wave Feminists, erstwhile official partners of the upcoming Women’s March on Washington, are now officially NOT. Pantsuit Nation now overflows with post after post of women sharing their positive experience with abortion.
I felt this backlash coming and it’s one reason I’ve mostly only lurked on the pages of the state and local offshoots of Pantsuit Nation. I’m so tired of being marginalized for one reason or another. I am sick at heart over the notion that there is only one kind of feminist–our pro-life feminist foremothers be damned!–that the right to unlimited abortion apparently trumps all and that some of us are not woman enough to participate in a Women’s March! As I posted on Facebook, “It’s like you are not an actual woman if you are not pro-choice.”
Rebecca Bratton Weiss makes an excellent case for why the feminist movement needs to embrace pro-life feminists. This resonated with me especially: “We have risked personal and professional relationships in our staunch opposition to Donald Trump, our refusal to accept him as representative of anything remotely pro-life. I personally lost a business associate when I spoke out against his boasts of sexual assault, and the latent misogyny in those who dismissed this as ‘locker room talk.’ I’ve been spied on and screen-shotted by right-wingers who seem more interested in controlling women than in saving lives.”
I, too, was attacked for my constant opposition to Donald Trump. As I wrote days before the election: “Already today I’ve received tweets hashtagged hypocrite, babykiller, and cafeteriaCatholic. It’s just another day in an election season during which I’ve been unfriended by an actual family member, deemed excommunicated by the friend of a friend, and attacked in a public Facebook post by someone I thought was a friend, all because I shared political articles that they didn’t agree with.”
Alice Paul, author of the original Equal Rights Amendment, said that abortion is “the ultimate exploitation of women.” For pro-life feminists who risked a lot to vote for and publicly support Hillary, it’s adding insult to injury to not only end up with Trump as President but also to be sidelined by those who should accept us as allies.
Note: I am happy to report that the Knoxville Women’s March has chosen not to officially adopt the national march’s platform and is aiming for an event that is unifying and non-partisan.
Next time you are tempted to gleefully post about how happy you are to see ObamaCare repealed, I want you to think about the people whose lives are going to be affected dramatically when that happens. I want you to think about people who are terrified of losing their coverage, who went years uninsured, who saw doctors only when in dire need, who went bankrupt due to medical bills, who visited the emergency room for care because they didn’t have the money a clinic would have demanded up front, who spent hours researching online and filling out forms and chasing down doctors for signatures to get prescription medication payment assistance, who figured out which of their medications they could forgo in a given month, who held their breath in the pharmacy drive-through line while they waited to hear the terrible total.
You are entitled to your opinion and the ACA isn’t perfect, but it’s sure better than the nothing many people had before it was passed. You can suggest changes and discuss drawbacks and talk policy without appearing to be enthusiastic about the fact that millions of Americans stand to lose their care and that some of them are going to die.
Consider, please, how it makes me (and others) feel when I see people who are supposed to be my friends celebrating the fact that my family may soon be without health insurance and thus effectively without care. In my posts on this topic in the past I have always been careful to affirm my friends who told me that the implementation of the ACA had caused them difficulties like higher premiums and changes in doctors. I was always sympathetic and willing to concede the imperfections in the ACA, as evidenced by my many honest posts (which I will link at the end). I agreed that improvement–although not repeal–was needed.
Remember that there are suffering people who see your Facebook posts, people who are frightened, for whom this isn’t about politics or partisanship or finances but about staying alive. Remember that, and if you care about those people, watch the tone of your posts.
My high school French teacher, Sister deLellis, had a favorite saying that popped into my head today: “Tell me who you go with and I’ll tell you who you are.”
For the past year, many of my friends who termed themselves reluctant Trump supporters assured me repeatedly that all his flaws would not matter because once he was in office he would “surround himself with good people.” Since the election, they keep saying, “Give him a chance.”
In the disorganized mess that is the Trump transition, rumors abound, each one worse than the last. But I don’t deal in rumors. So far Mr. Trump has made only a few official appointments that I am aware of. Are they good people? Let’s take a look at some of them:
Stephen Bannon, Chief Strategist and Senior Counselor
If you haven’t already read more than your fill about Mr. Bannon and his alt-right associations, this opinion piece provides a fairly balanced view with links to more.
Jeff Sessions, Attorney General
Mr. Sessions was denied an appointment years ago to a federal judgeship for alleged racist remarks. He has denied the remarks, but he can’t deny that he said he isn’t sure that grabbing a woman’s genitalia is sexual assault.
Tennessee is on fire and Donald Trump is the President-Elect. The haze that hangs over Knoxville matches the haze in my head and my heart. It’s hard to think and hard to breathe.
On Election Day many of us headed off to the polls excited about a bright new world full of promise and possibility and without glass ceilings.
The next morning we awakened to an America we didn’t recognize, a country we used to love but feel that we don’t even know any more.
We are grieving and we are discouraged and the conservatives I know (translation: almost EVERYONE I know, here in red East Tennessee) think we are crybabies and want us to get over it.
In October, I cleared out our fire pit, planning for crisp November evenings.
The pit remains empty and cold. My bonfire dreams are dead like so many other dreams seem to be. Most of East Tennessee is under a burn ban, and this will continue until just a few days before winter begins. Tempers are flaring too, and those flames may be harder to dampen.
I love candles and every evening before we sit down to watch our show I light several. I wait for the moment when the flame from the lighter catches the wick and the candle begins to burn on its own, its flame swelling to life.
My family visited Mammoth Cave recently. After gathering us in a large room, our guide turned off every light and left us to wait in complete, impenetrable darkness. Then he lit just one match and the entire cave was illuminated. Our eyes can grow accustomed to the deepest darkness. One small flame becomes enough to see by.
Dark nights of the soul are steps along the journey to spiritual enlightenment. By all means we SHOULD curse the darkness we see in the world around us right now. But that doesn’t mean we can’t light candles. We can burn. We can shine.
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light . . . (Ephesians 5:8)
The first year we had health insurance via the ACA, I updated y’all frequently and promised to keep doing so. I realize that’s a promise I didn’t keep. Now that the law’s very existence is threatened, it seems like a good time to share how it’s been going for us in the almost two years since my last post.
I’m listing here for comparison some numbers I just crunched from the three years we have been covered thus far.
Premiums paid: $3,796.75
Physician Charges: $41,191.17
Our portion after insurance: $5,454.47
Total health care costs: $9,251.22
Premiums paid: $7,558.68
Physician Charges: $10,083.20
Our portion after insurance: $2,668.16
Total health care costs: $10,226.84
2016 (to date)
Premiums paid: $7,239.24
Physician Charges: $16,849.10
Our portion after insurance: $2,613.13
Total health care costs: $10,452.37
You will probably notice a couple of things: Our premiums went UP, and our physician charges went DOWN.
Well, it’s no secret that premiums are going up across the land, which many people blame on ObamaCare. Ours would be unaffordable by now if it weren’t for the generous government subsidy we receive thanks to the size of our family vs. the size of our income.
Our physician charges went down because for one thing we didn’t have a major medical issue as we did the first year when Jake required surgery for a severed tendon, and the first year we also all went to the doctor a lot to make up for years of not being able to do so. One of the things that has been driving costs up has been exactly this–people who hadn’t been able to access care, some of them very sick as a result, finally getting the care they need. Presumably some of that will improve as time goes on, as it has for us.
So our experience continues to be positive. We love our doctors. We love that we can still provide insurance for our two adult children who are not in school. We love that whenever anyone is sick we don’t have to worry about paying for or accessing care. We love having regular preventive care and psychological care too. And we love the lack of sticker shock at the pharmacy.
None of that is to say that there aren’t problems that need to be fixed. Because insurance companies now have to cover those who they used to be able to reject, they haven’t been able to make a profit for the past three years. Premiums continue to rise. And Blue Cross has pulled out of Knoxville so we have to find another plan for next year. Any day now I will have to devote a couple of hours to the hell on earth otherwise known as Healthcare.gov–which has only improved marginally since the last time I was there.
Now that I’ve got you all caught up, count on seeing more–a LOT more–on this topic over the next few weeks.
All I want to do right now is read the internet obsessively and get ready to watch election coverage. But it’s NaBloPoMo, and I have to post something. So I’ll do a quick Election Day photo essay!
Even though there was no school today, I got up relatively early, and got Lorelei and Emily up, hoping to get to the polls by ten. We didn’t quite make that goal! But at least we didn’t need to worry about crowds this time. Unbeknownst to us, they split our precinct place and sent half the voters elsewhere (not our half, happily). There was only a short line, although the workers said that it had been steady and was busy earlier with voters on the way to work.
Here are our happy post-voting pictures!
Emily was away at college for the last election and didn’t get her absentee ballot in time, so this was her first vote for President. Lorelei is still a bit young, but I let her push the button.
And here I am, rocking my “pantsuit.”
I got the idea online to go on a field trip to the Women’s Suffrage Memorial, located downtown in Market Square. We found a parking place and I even managed to parallel park!
Then we went to lunch at Pete’s (a downtown institution, where the girls had never been), and then to Krispy Kreme for our free doughnuts!
Since then I’ve been glued to my computer and I’m getting ready to be glued to the t.v. We have snacks and pink champagne and we are going to have a little party. 🙂
And tomorrow, one way or another, life goes on, and maybe I will be able to concentrate on working again!
On the eve of the 2012 Presidential Election, I put up a post about how I would be voting, and why. By now, if you’ve been keeping up, you know whom I will be voting for tomorrow. And I’ve even explained how I approached making this decision, as a Catholic.
What you might still wonder, though, is what is different about this year. In 2008, I didn’t vote at all. In 2012, I wrote in None of the Above. What has changed? Did I just convince myself to vote for Hillary Clinton because I love her so much and because I’ve always secretly yearned to vote for a Democrat?
Actually, I would have liked to have voted for President Obama in 2008. I preferred him to McCain and I wanted him to win. I would have liked to pull the lever for the first black President. But I couldn’t find a proportionate reason to do so.
By 2012 I had serious reservations about our President, but his policies were still more agreeable to me than Romney’s were. Yet, again, I did not vote for him.
What is special about this election?
Two words: Donald Trump. Donald Trump is my proportionate reason for voting for Hillary Clinton.
Don’t misunderstand–I LIKE Hillary. I don’t believe most of what the conservative media says about her. I agree with nine-tenths of her ideas (and I don’t think I have to explain to you which ones I don’t agree with). And I find a great deal to admire about her. Plus she’s the most qualified person to ever run for President.
But if Jeb Bush were running, if John Kasich were running, if John McCain or Mitt Romney were running, I might be voting for one of them or writing in None of the Above again tomorrow.
Donald Trump CANNOT and MUST NOT be President. I believe he poses a clear and present danger to the residents of this nation, to everything it stands for, perhaps even to its very existence. All the harm he would do as President constitutes–for me–the proportionate reasons my conscience demands.
Now, as you may know, I am in Tennessee, which I have no doubt Trump will win tomorrow. I’m not in a swing state, so why am I “endangering my soul” by the remote material cooperation in evil of voting for a pro-choice candidate?
It would be hypocritical for me to expect other pro-life Catholics in swing states to vote against Donald Trump if I refuse to do the same. My vote may not go directly toward defeating Trump, but it may encourage others whose votes have that power. I will also be demonstrating, through my vote and my testimony about it here and on my blog, that while there is a Catholic process for choosing your candidate, there is no one right choice for every Catholic.
So tomorrow I will cast my vote for Hillary with a clear conscience and the firm belief that Donald Trump and everything he represents must be repudiated.
It’s come to my attention that many (maybe even most?) of my fellow Catholics are a bit confused on the issue of voting. How do I know this? Because FACEBOOK, mostly. If any Catholic is on Facebook telling any other Catholic that he or she is in a state of mortal sin or hellbound for voting for Hillary Clinton (or Donald Trump, for that matter), that Catholic clearly needs a refresher course (maybe a first course?) on Catholic voting.
I can see why some of them would be confused, too, when you’ve got deacons preaching about whom to vote for and Bishops and priests making ill-advised and incorrect statements in the press and people putting unauthorized flyers in parish bulletins. I’ve seen and read about all of this, and you probably have too, and I’m not going to link to these folks to give them any more undeserved attention and the opportunity to spread more misinformation. (By the way, here’s what our Bishops have to say about such activities.)
Some of you have probably also seen voting guides from Catholic Answers or EWTN, and have (understandably) assumed that you could trust such well-known sources. But the ONLY authorized voting guide (and that includes this blog, which is why my advice to you is going to be backed up by authoritative links) is the Forming Consciences for Faithful Citizenship, published in every election year by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops. That’s the ONLY document with the authority of the Magisterium behind it. If you haven’t read it yet, you haven’t done your homework and you shouldn’t cast a vote until you do.
You might also want to familiarize yourself with Catholic Social Teaching. And you are certainly going to want to read the section of the Catechism which deals with the formation of conscience. And it goes without saying that you should read about the candidates and their positions on issues of importance to Catholics, of course making sure to check your sources.
Frankly, I think the Church and its members would be in a lot better shape if we all spent more time reading the above documents and less on Breitbart News and Occupy Democrats. Particularly in matters of faith I would suggest spending more time on the Vatican and USCCB sites and less on LifeSite News and HuffPo Religion.
Anyway, I’m going to paraphrase some of this, but I am not a theologian and this is not an approved voting guide so you really ought to go to the links provided and read for yourself.
Short version: You can vote for anyone you want to, but not for the wrong reasons.
What does this mean? Here’s an example: We all know that Hillary Clinton supports legalized abortion. Abortion is an intrinsic evil that deserves the highest level of attention from Catholics. So if you vote for Hillary Clinton BECAUSE she supports abortion, that’s wrong. If you are a Catholic, you can’t do that.
Every candidate running this year has certain positions that run contrary to Church teachings. YOU CAN STILL VOTE FOR ANY OF THEM, as long as you are voting for the DESPITE these positions AND in the presence of PROPORTIONATE REASONS.
Back when he was still Cardinal Ratzinger, Pope Emeritus Benedict explained how this works. He’s a scholar and used lots of big words, so here is the simplified version: Voting for a candidate who supports an intrinsic evil (like abortion or racism) requires the presence of a proportionate reason.
In her wisdom, the Church so far has not defined what these proportionate reasons might be, although if you Google you will find plenty of Catholics expressing their opinions. But they are only opinions, and everyone will reach his own conclusions about this, according to his conscience.
But Trump is just AWFUL, you say. How could there be ANY reason proportionate enough to justify voting for him? Well, maybe a Catholic voter is convinced that Mr. Trump really has had a conversion of heart and is truly pro-life. Our next President will probably have the opportunity to appoint several Supreme Court justices. Mr. Trump has said he will appoint justices who will overturn Roe v. Wade. Faced with the possibility of ending the evil of abortion, this person feels he cannot in good conscience fail to vote for a candidate who might achieve this.
Still can’t understand it? Guess what? You don’t have to! It’s not your business how your fellow Catholics vote. It’s not their business how YOU vote! You don’t get to tell them they are going to hell and they don’t get to tell you that you are excommunicated.
One more quote from the Bishops: “We strongly urge all parishioners to register, to become informed on key issues, and to vote. The Church does not support or oppose any candidate, but seeks to focus attention on the moral and human dimensions of issues.”
And from our Holy Father, when directly asked what the American faithful should keep in mind while voting: “In electoral campaigns, I never say a word. The people are sovereign. I’ll just say a word: Study the proposals well, pray and choose in conscience.”
Being accused of being more Catholic than the Pope is not a compliment, y’all. Can we all take our cue from the Bishop of Rome and mind our own consciences–and our own business?
A few days ago I was invited to join a secret Facebook group. I posted what follows by way of introduction and was overwhelmed by the support, understanding, and acceptance I received, even from people whose beliefs are very different. Because so many people wanted a way to share what I had written, I decided to post it here with some slight editing to account for the potential wider audience.
As a devout pro-life Catholic, this election season has been a very trying time for me. Never in my lifetime has there been a candidate for President who aligned perfectly with my religious beliefs, and I have dealt with this in various ways in each election.
I wrote for the local Catholic press for many years, including writing a column specifically on life issues. I was the chair of our Diocesan Respect Life Committee and have 25 years of pro-life activism to my credit. I blog about life issues frequently and post publicly about them on Facebook. And I’m the mother of five children!
Yet none of this has stopped my being the target of vitriol from right-wing Catholics, many of whom will clearly do ANYTHING to justify the fact that they really just want to vote Republican. I’ve been talked down to, threatened with excommunication, and attacked, even as I have tried to create space for discussion on my Facebook wall and explained the Church teachings on voting and conscience which support my actions.
This year, I am voting for Hillary with a clear conscience. Despite my deep disagreement with her views on abortion it is quite clear to me that her other positions and her proposed policies are more in keeping with the Church’s teachings on the sanctity of life and social justice (not to mention the fact that she is way more qualified, not dangerous, and won’t bring disgrace to the office!). I am not holding my nose while I vote either–I am excited to be with Her!
For more of my writing about Catholicism, voting, and politics, see the partial list below: